Mission 10 brings us back on track. No more approaching dudes for mission requirements. The focus of this mission is disqualification. The goal of disqualification is to meet women and tell, in some way, them you don’t want to date them. The author, Neil Strauss, claims this is the “bedrock of flirting”.

The mission: Meet three women and use a disqualifier.

One important note on disqualification from the book:

Most disqualifiers are meant to be playful. Others are used to demonstrate that you have high standards and won’t date or sleep with just anyone. However, a disqualifier should never be hostile, critical, judgemental, or condescending. There’s a fine line between flirting and hurting. And disqualification is never intended to be mean or insulting. So say these with a smile on your face and laughter in your voice, as if you were good-naturedly picking on a younger sibling.

Some ideas for disqualifiers:

• Ask her what her favorite movie is, then respond, “You actually liked that? That’s it. I’m going home. Nice meeting you.”
• Do you have a gold medal? I only date women who’ve won a gold medal, you better hurry and get one.
• What’s the wildest, craziest thing you’ve ever done? That’s great. You and my grandma would really get along.
• A good girl like you should probably be talking to a nice boy like that one over there.
• If she touches you, hey now, hands off the merchandise. That’ll be $40.
• The book has a bunch more of these…

The author also writes, “This is going to be the most difficult mission of the challenge so far”. But I don’t think so. I think I’ve been doing this in several of my interactions so far by saying girls are the “Mom” of the group or telling them I was hoping they were a yoga instructor. I think this should go well.