Again, Mission 10 is to meet three girls and use disqualification (playful comments why they are inappropriate for dating you). Below are two more interactions employing this technique.
Interaction 3 and 4 – Massage Therapy and Japanese Friend
(At a bar with large shared booths, My friend and I go sit down across from three girls. Girl 1 looks high maintenance, girl 2 has that spoiled/crabby brat look to her like she thinks she is hot stuff, girl 3 is cute…brunette, pleasant, girl-next-door look. I like her but she is the furthest away. One is to my left, two is in front toward the right, girl 3 is past her. My friend is getting drinks. I don’t think about it and just open my mouth…)
Me: Hi
Them: Hi, how’s it going?
Me: Good. So, who’s like, the leader, of your little group here?
Girl 2: What do you mean?
Me: Like, who decided to come here tonight?
Girl 2: None of us.
Girl 3: Yeah.
Girl 1: We’re meeting friends here.
(Gah. This was a poor choice…not the answer I was looking for.)
Me: Usually someone is in charge of small groups like this.
(I’ve now lost girl 2 and 3 who are now talking to each other and ignoring me.)
Girl 1: Not us.
Me: (Talking to Girl 1 alone now) Well, looking at you three I get the sense that she’s the jokester (pointing at girl 3), she’s the trouble-maker (points at girl 2), and you’re like the Mom of the group taking care of everyone and staying out of trouble.
Girl 1: (bursts out laughing)
Girl 1: (To friends) He says I look like the Mom of our group. It’s so TRUE! (laughs)
Girl 2 and 3: (laughs, smiles at me) That is true! (They go back to talking)
(Time out: Ok, that was going HORRIBLY until a complete 180 degree turnaround by calling her the Mom. What’s the deal here?)
Me: I’m Devo by the way.
Her: Hi, I’m Tina.
Me: So Tina, what do you do?
Her: I’m a massage therapist at _______.
(I don’t know why I didn’t use my “wish you were a yoga instructor” line; I should have but I was caught off guard by that. I guess part of me doesn’t want to say the same thing over and over again. But also, a pretty blonde massage therapist?! Wow.)
Me: Oh, that’s cool. (pause, snap out of it!) I’m a cigarette lighter repairman.
Her: (Looks at me oddly) A what?
Me: It’s very dexterous work. Tiny tools and parts. You know how expensive those things are. (wink)
Her: Oh, you’re joking! (laughs)
Me: (Pretending to talk to myself) Note to self: don’t date gullible girls.
Her: (laughs) Plus I have a boyfriend, we’re meeting here soon.
Me: Oh well then, problem solved. I’m meeting people here too.
Alas, no happy ending tonight. 
We chat politely a bit longer, her cell phone rings, her friends arrive. But strangely they arrive at the same time as my friend’s ex/current girlfriend (seriously, they are on and off all the time) along with her friend from Japan. We had to share the bench and it was a little cozy. But this made conversation quite easy. It was mostly just regular getting to know you talk. And it went well! We’re planning to meet for happy hour somewhere next week.
