To re-cap, the field test for Mission 4 was to approach 3 women and ask for a menswear store recommendation. I had a tough time finding both time and targets for this during the work week. But over the weekend I had a chance to go to a fun house party.

It’s tough to remember every detail from the weekend but what follows are a few conversations that took place at the party. In general, it was a success, but not a runaway success. I had zero problems approaching. I think I talked to at least 16 different women. I approached at least 8. I am learning more about my strengths and weaknesses by doing this Stylelife Challenge. More on that in the summary post.

Of the 16 women I talked to, there were five or six that really stood out. There was the goofy one with sexy eyes, the Danish girl, the Kim Kardashian look-alike, the Capital Hill hippy, the dental hygenist, the Asian with glasses, the neighbor, and a few others that I don’t remember.

Kim Kardashian
(This girl looked like Kim. She was wearing a VERY low cut top, wore a lot of make-up, and had TIGHT jeans over Beyonce-like booty. Not my “type”, but tough not to be at least somewhat attracted to.)

Me: Nice gloves, where’d you get them?
Her: Oh, the costume shop on Denny. I cut the fingers off myself.
Me: Nice tailoring. My name is (real name).
Her: Hi, I’m Lisa.
Her friend: Hi, I’m Erica.
Me: So do you do all your shopping there?
Her: (chuckles) These were for a vampire costume.
Me: Oh no, you’re one those Twilight fans aren’t you?
Her: (silence, looks playfully guilty.)

(I KNEW it! WTF is up with Twilight?!)

Me: It’s ok. There’s a blond one right?
Her: Yes, you’d make a good Jasper.

(Not to self: Look up Jasper. Update: I look NOTHING like Jasper. Not at all whatsoever. Maybe the pale skin. Maybe.)

Me: So besides the costume shop, where do you think is a good place to get men’s clothing?
Her: Well, do you want to look like a douchebag or not?
Me: How douchey do I look now?
Her: Not at all. But if you want to look douchey, go buy a white suit at Banana Republic. Otherwise, go buy something at Nordstrom.
Me: Yeah, Nordstrom is good. Anyway, what do you you when you’re not dressing like a vampire?
Her: I’m a graphics designer.

(Ok, this next line I totally stole that line from some website. It’s not like me to say things like that but there was alcohol involved and I didn’t care.)

Me: Aw, that’s a shame. I was hoping you were going to say stripper.
Her: (Grabs my arm and pushes chest against me.) Ha ha ha! Well, yeah, I do that on the side too but not for a day job. Ha ha ha!
Me: (Smiles) That’s cool. Seriously though, I’m in design too. Websites and such.
Her: Oh cool, like what?
Me: Well, this and this, blah blah. How about you?
Her: I do blah blah blah. And blah blah blah. It’s blah! Blah….

(Ok, I’ll admit, I tuned out here for some reason. I blame the alcohol. Then my friend came over. But overall I thought that went well. She was “hot”, I approached, she laughed and had positive body language. Looking back I wonder if I should have been more aggressive later on.)

Capital Hill Hippy
(This girl was standing right next to the door, barefoot. Big beautiful eyes, artistic looking.)

Him: Hey guys.
Us: Hi.
Her: Where’s _____ (gay friend’s friend)?
Him: He was totally gabbing about (something inaudible).
Him: (Smiling to me) So are you a gay dude or a straight dude?
Her: (laughs)
Me: (Uh oh.) Uhhh, I’m a straight dude.
Him: Maybe a bit bi-curious at least?
Me: (chuckles nervously) No, straight…didn’t think I gave off that signal?
Him: Well you dress so well.
Me: Oh…thanks.

At that point the three of us chatted, but he was looking at me weirdly. Maybe I was just uncomfortable. I soon transitioned elsewhere. Emma had large pretty eyes. But she seemed stiff. I don’t know if she was uninterested or just boring. But I think I’m seeing an issue here. I might not be putting out a bold enough heterosexual vibe. All these women were perfectly content to talk to me but I couldn’t get electricity going. But I noticed this Emma making eye contact with me both before and after the exchange. So I think I made some sort of impression. Perhaps the entire exchange was just so weird she didn’t know what to think. In retrospect I should have asked him where to shop. He’d probably know where to get cool men’s clothes.

The Others
I’m just going to summarize the other conversations as it’s really hard to remember these, verbatim, several days later now with the added difficulty of having been drinking and been up to 3 am. The Danish girl, super cute, I approached her effortlessly. But I didn’t get a chance to ask about a store. We chatted for a while, I probably should have just asked her out. What the hell did I have to lose?! I didn’t have any date ideas at the time. Anyway, then the Dental hygenist was with a friend when I approached. She had to check with her friend when I asked about an independent cool menswear store. One of them said boutiques aren’t common for guys. (True, but come on, I even know of one in Seattle. Two, in fact.) Another random girl, a neighbor, who I don’t remember much about also said Nordstrom. The super cute Asian girl with glasses only gets mentioned because she was super cute. She actually approached me to introduce herself and ask about me. I saw she was with some dude…they seemed like a couple. I hate to wish a breakup on anyone but wow, I dug her. Smiley, quirky, friendly, and HOT. We bantered a bit and I didn’t ask about clothes. Whew! There is a good chance I see some of these people again in the same circle.

Overall, a fun, fun party. I had no problem approaching in this environment. Being sober and approaching random women on the street, on the other hand, is a different story.